Transformation/Declination
Something happens starting in your forties and moving on. Up to this point we live our lives independently. We spend years separating ourselves from our parents and learning how to function on our own. Sure, parents are always there to help out with advice or to fix something but we are mostly focused on establishing our own lives and families. We have our own children now and they have so many needs. We have jobs and mortgages to pay. When something breaks we have to fix it, when its time to eat, we have to make it. While all this is going on at some point in life our parents start to need us more. It can happen very slowly and often we don't even perceive the change yet it happens. As I look around at my friends who share my age I can see it happening. These days I see it quite brilliantly in the life of my father who is now in his 60's and has a mother in her 90's. I see it in the life of my dear friend Peggy whose father in law spent his final days with them